Psych

"I can be very difficult at times. I lose it totally." What does this statement mean? Have you ever lost your temper uncontrollably? Have you actually managed to hurt someone physically or emotionally by losing your temper? I do it all the time, do you?

Man is a social animal. Whoever gave that statement forgot about evolution. Charles Darwin definitely did not give that statement. He would have imagined that man would evolve from being a social animal to a totally anti-social one. Today there is hatred, violence, betrayal everywhere.
Men are killing men. What for? Man was supposed to be a social animal remember?

So, the question which arises is, are we social? As people living in a society full of people, we deem ourselves to be social. But are we truly social? Here is a small example from life which would elaborate. I was in the 12th grade staying in Lucknow. We were staying at our house which was located at a place where mostly people from the armed forces lived. People from the armed forces at a time in history, were supposed to be the most caring and hospitable people. At that time in Lucknow, there was no interaction of any kind between neighbors. You would have seen in movies, neighbors usually come to borrow sugar, not even that was there. Everyone was busy with their own life. We call that a society?

A friend in need is a friend indeed. How many true friends do you have? Ones who'd never ever leave your side. Come what may, they'd be with you? One? Two? More? Society as we call it in the modern day has killed this proverb too. "A friend who needs is a friend in deed." Revised quote should look something like this. Forgive my spontaneity but I write whatever comes to me, as it comes. Today we still narrate stories of Krishna and Sudama, the inseparable pair of friends. That was true friendship. Today, its all compromise. "That guy might be of use to me someday. So i should befriend him." This is all they think today. Where is the culture and society now?

The subject that I'd love to discuss is Marriage. Marriage in today's India(I speak of India as I don't know about the rest of the world) is the biggest compromise one would ever witness. It is a business deal. Seen the bids of properties? Marriage is similar, the highest bidder wins. 5 lac one, 5 lac two, 5 lac three....you take the boy! What in the world happened to the culture and the society that we Indians claim to have? "Indian culture is very rich and varied." Bullshit. We had a rich and diverse culture. But we killed it, buried it and sold it to the trash collectors for money. We don't have culture, we only have ego and attitude. We are not social anymore but hostile. And this can't change. Many hindi movies have been made on such topics. A good one showcasing the issue very well is Lajja. But a dramatic reform is needed, which would not be possible if movies are made or posters are displayed. The mentality of people has to change, which of course can't. Seen Matrix? India is like that now. Its a single program which is running each one of us, using us as batteries. We don't feel anything for real, its only an illusion. Life is a big illusion. Keep reading.

Crossroads

If you're thinking that this blog post is inspired from the Britney Spears movie "Crossroads", you are not totally wrong. I would like to refresh our memories about the movie. The movie is about a teenage girl whose family broke up when she was born. Her mother doesn't accept her as a child. Moreover she doesn't know what she wants to do with life and goes out on a road trip with friends as she can't think of anything better to do.

I can bet that everyone of us has felt the way that girl felt in the movie. Haven't we? If your answer is "no", can anyone of you be precise in telling what you want to do with your life? I guess not. The question that haunts man today is not how dinosaurs disappeared, or is time travel possible. It is a simple "What do I do with my life?".

Story of a boy

A boy is born in a family(I am not a chauvinist, just taking boy for an example). The baby is pampered and brought up with values instilled in him. The parents decide what they want him to be. They admit him to a school with a good reputation. The boy starts carrying books heavier than himself before he can ride a bicycle. The boy is encouraged to cram stuff and score well in exams. The boy grows up, gets admitted to a good college, the choice of his parents perhaps. The boy crams stuff and scores in exams as he was taught. The boy gets a job in a company, probably that too of his parents' choice. The boy is bewildered now. Where is the part that he has mastered the most? He is disappointed that he can't work efficiently as there is no cramming involved. He trudges along with the job somehow and makes a living with no direction or job satisfaction whatsoever. He probably even gets married to the girl his parents select for him.

This is not fiction. This is real life incidents happening to more than 90% of the people today. Once upon a time this used to be my story too. But I was inquisitive from the beginning. I questioned everything. By God's grace I came out of the story before it ended. But just stop and think about this for a minute. Do you think that the story is justified? Do you think that the system which exists today is good enough to give us people like B.R Ambedkar or Dr. C.V Raman? Where does cultivating interest and encouraging hobbies in children go? People forget that they are not making leaders out of their children, ones who'd shape the future of the nation. They are making cramming machines who are devoid of common sense and cannot think on their own.

Why are foreigners much ahead of us in this regard? Why are foreign engineers better than our engineers? Do they study harder? Do they know more than we do? No. They have the gift of vision. They see things spatially rather than 2-dimensionally, like we do. We have been taught to restrict our imagination and that is what we are best at. We need to break free of this inhibition. For this either the system has to change or we have to change it. Else every one of our next generation child will be as confused as we are about our careers. And when they ask "Dad,.. what should I do with my life?", we would feel guilty and trapped. Transformation is the need of the hour. Keep reading.

Transformation

Its been a long time. But I am back to blogging! Will try posting here at regular intervals.

This post of mine is not as tricky to judge from the title as the previous posts :)

What strikes your mind when you think of the word Transformation? Simple dictionary meaning would put it at change. Someone said that Change is the way of life. Life can't remain stagnant. Change is bound to happen and will happen even if it is opposed.

The Wright brothers brought change to the world. When they first proposed the idea of flying, they were laughed at, ridiculed and humiliated. The world remembers them today as visionaries.

When Thomas Alva Edison proposed that he'd make a glass bulb glow, he was mocked by one and all. Look what he did. The light that you see in your room is his gift. He brought transformation, of which normal people couldn't even dream of.

There is a story about a man. Pardon my memory but I fail to recall his name. He said that he could move a boat by using electricity. The crowd laughed at the very idea. How could man use electricity safely in water? He was certainly inviting death. At the time of the demonstration, everyone gathered to see the utter failure. The pessimists said "The thing will never start."

The thing however did start. It went down the stream with never before seen speed. People were awed. They cheered the man who'd brought change. The pessimists however then said "The thing will never stop."

This is the kind of resistance change gets in the real world. Taking a very simple example, when you go to your favorite eating joint, what do you order? The usual of course! We don't want to change. Its innate human nature to resist any kind of transformation. But we forget, change is the way of life. Those who remain stagnant, are left behind. The challenge lies in changing oneself. It might seem easy to change oneself rather than changing the world. But believe me, its not a cakewalk. It needs mammoth determination, to go against human nature of inertia of Transformation. And there, a new law hence derived. The law of inertia of transformation. The law universally applies to all species present on the planet earth and beyond. Do try and figure out the transformation happening within you, till then keep reading! :D